This weekend I realized how different my sister and I are in our “mommy” styles. My sister is a super-mom. My nephew, Zach is 8 months old. My sister has been working full-time for the last 5 months, and she is still able to pump and supply him with breastmilk. She has dinner on the table every night, makes lunch for her hubby, and keeps her house immaculate (although she thinks otherwise). She keeps Zach dressed to the nines, right down to his little matching shoes and socks. When we went out to lunch with the family, she busted out the diaper bag which contained a bottle of formula ready to go, baby food, snacks, a snack mat, diapers, toys, and tons of other baby necessities. She started planning their first birthday party two weeks after Zach was born.
On the other hand, I stay at home, yet struggle with the “what’s for dinner” dilemma weekly, and typically end up whipping something up right as hubby gets home. Most days, my house looks like a tornado ripped through it. Moose rarely gets 3 square meals of baby food – he still gets 90% of his nutrition from me. The Moose hasn’t had anything on his feet (socks or shoes) since before Mother’s day. I’m not even sure where my diaper bag is. I have a traveling diaper cover thing that sometimes has diapers in it. I am that mom that has had to buy diapers bc I didn’t have extras in my car. I will sometimes remember to throw in a bib, spoon, and baby food into my purse before we go out to eat. And birthday planning?!? Yeah, there’s a reason we are having a combined party for the boys…
A good friend of mine was once told she shouldn’t worry about having kids because she is not the domestic type. But seriously, who is? Compared to my sister, I most definitely am not. But we are both doing a great job raising our kids – they are happy, healthy and learning every day. If only “domestic” types had babies, ther world population wouldn’t be rising exponentially. My mom said it doesn’t matter what you are like before kids, if you are a good person, your mother instincts will kick in. And I think that is true. I think my friend is going to be an AWESOME mom. She is great with Moose and every other kid I have ever seen her interact with.
I don’t think being “domestic” has anything to do with being a good mom. Sure, I would love to be a Martha Stewart-type mom, but I don’t have the energy for it. I love my TV and computer too much for that. I type this as Moose is screaming for me to finish… oh well..